The Coloured Hair of a Reckless, Disastrous Little Rebel & Mature Adult

Life is meant to spontaneously bolt full speed ahead down scary pathways that our sane minds would tell us not to do. If you are going to live a boring life where you decide to never be adventurous… take a walk. You aren’t welcome to ride with me in the fun car. I will admit, I used to be this timid character that would always be the one to question whether an activity was safe to execute or not. However, that wasn’t entirely a bad attribute to have because there were some dumb ideas thrown out by my friends or cousins that everyone seemed to be cool with besides me. Apparently my brain was the only one that heard some sort of pounding alarm screeching “DO NOT DO THIS! BAD IDEA SURGING.” Except now I’ve really grown into my adult shoes and for some wicked reason this new alarm went off saying “yeah it may be a bad idea, but it could also be really fun and create a good memory. Just don’t be stupid.” So I’ve carried that phrase with me and I can honestly say it’s the greatest thing of all. That fine line between living as a ‘reckless, disastrous little rebel and being a mature adult who is not so great at adulting, but tries very hard’ is absolutely perfect.

As I live between the fine line of a ‘reckless, disastrous little rebel and mature adult’ things don’t always go as planned. There is almost perpetually trouble simply just ‘chilling’ along that scary pathway that at some point meets with me. When this happens it really sucks and usually leaves me feeling bad or re-thinking my life choices or both. Then again, it’s the experience that allows us to make mistakes and become better people and so I have no regrets with my past because I needed those mistakes or ‘rebellious stunts’ to get me to where I am today. In our present society, the sanity in us all takes these troubling situations and decides it needs time to fix the ‘flat tire’, so we start to question ourselves on why we didn’t take the preventive measures in the first place. We begin to throw ourselves under the bus and believe if we had decided to just make smarter decisions we wouldn’t be standing on this god-awful scary pathway changing the damn tire. Think of it this way, if you did think of those preventive measures and never got stuck fixing the tire, you wouldn’t know how much frustration you could withstand before you maybe (probably) started crying nor would you know how to actually change a tire! So by experiencing this disastrous moment you were able to learn something new that can now benefit you in the future. Now every time my own brain sounds the alarm and the inner rebel yet mature adult tumbles out, I know that troubling situations have good, teachable qualities. Without them I could be the unfortunate, boring person who never takes risks back there walking, profoundly wishing they decided not to leave the fun car.

Using all this, I’ve come to the conclusion that when troubling situations challenge me mentally, it is OK to need a change. Normally I’m not a huge fan of change because I get easily attached and comfortable to the way things are (I don’t think I’m alone on that thought either). However, when things don’t go right on the scary pathway (or any pathway you’re taking) you are given two choices. One being, decide to be that boring person who is now really lost or, you can take the risk and make a change that could lead you onto a whole new road that you will be so grateful for in the future. Mentally struggling with difficulties reconstructs us anyways, so with any troubling situations I tend to make a physical change too. This allows for an entirely new fresh start and a whole lot of hell yeah feel-good “I am powerful and a boss” moments.

In addition to that note and my predetermined reckless, disastrous little rebel and mature adult personality, I was dared to colour my hair and the idea all fit perfectly. As a child I always admired people with coloured hair because I loved how it was brave and cool all in one. In spite of my personal opinion, my parents always told me their own theory that people with coloured hair never receive enough attention so that’s why they coloured it. After colouring my own hair red last summer and now pink this summer, I conclude that theory is a huge load of BS. Coloured hair is brave, cool, and risky and ultimately unleashes who you truly are. Why not do it? Coloured hair is another way to express yourself (cue Madonna).

Even if coloured hair isn’t your thing, trust that whatever risk you’re willing to take may create an awesome new experience! If not, you know for next time. And for whatever fine line you fit between, please don’t be the boring person probably still walking close to where we dropped them off, now lost and crying… Remember, the fun car is fun for a reason.

Written by Tessa R. Adamski